Friday, November 21, 2014

Thanks, I Think; Visible Monday Reminder

We were at the Ear Inn, one of our favorite hangouts in NYC. The bartenders there have star presence (due to their experience, not their movie star looks). A shot of tequila on the house is not unheard of. The food is good, and the jazz trio is smooth.



So we were sitting next to some delightful, gorgeous 20-something women, having a cheery girls' night out. One of them said to me, "We're just saying we hope we look like you when we get older." I said thanks, and she went on to say "You still look cool."


So I was like all:

Oh, thanks.

Always a lively crowd, of all ages. Source.

I'm flattered to be not-invisible to the younger generation. But I am still struggling to believe I'm one of the "older women," even though it's undeniably true. Is that because I'm still so immature down deep? 

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Wednesday, November 19, 2014

What I Wore: Blue Linen Shirt, Any Time of The Year

My clothes have to serve for a climate that ranges from warm, to very warm, to blazing hot, and then mildly cool. I have had to wean myself from buying big cozy sweaters and fleece leggings, even though I love that look. Some versatile pieces do work perfectly for ten months of the year in Florida (nothing feels good in August and September except nudity and iced tea).

The magic pieces include: denim and cotton skirts; knit dresses that can be easily layered; long-sleeve but lightweight knit tops; and button-down shirts. This blue classic linen shirt (similar) was a thrift find for just a few dollars. It doesn't hold wrinkles, if you give it six good shakes from the washer.

The year-round skirt is dark denim from Old Navy (similar). I was doing open shoes last week when this pic was taken, but today it's ankle booties. The blue velvet belt was thrifted years ago, and the bead necklace was made by a friend.

Sorry for the lack of focus; caffeinated photographer. The older I get, though, the less I mind a bit of blur  : >


Stay warm and fabulous,

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Monday, November 17, 2014

The Woman I Wanted To Be

That's the title of Diane von Furstenberg's new book: The Woman I Wanted To Be. I saw her at a book-signing in NYC and she's still gorgeous and compelling. I haven't read the book yet, but she has had an amazing life as a designer, businesswoman, Princess, wife, mother and more.


As for me, the woman I wanted to be was always non-traditional, as far back as I can remember. I cannot recall a time when I wanted to have children, for example. I know now, and I must have known back then, that it wasn't a good choice for me.

I wanted to have a partner, and I love being married now. I wasn't very good at it in my twenties. I've never cared for cooking, and haven't hosted a Christmas dinner in my life. I don't decorate for the holidays. I have complete respect and awe for the women who have done, and continue to do these things.

Work and academics were central to me. Like many of my generation I was the first in my family to graduate college. I loved being a Bachelor Girl in Boston and Washington D.C., and doing all the things BG's do on the regular.

I've worked in big cities, traveled, gone to graduate school, opened a therapy practice, and rescued cats, and lived by the sea. New York City will be my next big adventure, I hope. As I recount this life, it sounds self-absorbed. I hope it hasn't been. I've tried to do well by my patients. I have an egalitarian marriage that gets better all the time. I look forward to volunteering for the Red Cross and the Cat Thrift and more.

Hold on, I'm coming.

All in all, I have become the woman I wanted to be. The journey isn't over, but I'm just six months from age 60, and I am who I am. I know I have missed out on many joys (and some heartache) by staying child-free. I won't have any grandchildren to cuddle, or a big table around me at Christmas. I'll have memories and peace all the same, lots of memories and peace.

Have you taken a road less traveled? I would love to hear.

Stay fabulous,


Saturday, November 15, 2014

What I Wore: Lime Jeans and Dots

I didn't think of my style as embracing lime green jeans. Then I found these, by Eileen Fisher, (similar) in a NYC thrift for $10. They fit like a dream and are well-made. I'd call them true straight legs, as the width doesn't change from the knee down. And I find them versatile too - I wear them with black, white, and navy of course, but they also look great with contrasting print tops.

The vee-neck blouse is by Cynthia Rowley (similar), picked up at the Revolve Clothing Exchange. I wear it all the time because it: goes with everything; is a season-less polyester; and therefore washes and dries with no ironing. For the win.

Simple jewelry and nude Anne Klein platforms, and messy hair, to finish the look.


And a tossed-on scarf that looks cute, but was too uncomfortable to wear from more than an hour.

I know colored jeans are so yesterday (like we grown-up fashionistas care) . . .  but do you wear them?


Stay fabulous,


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Thursday, November 13, 2014

The Beauty Of Imperfection

Our eyes and brains are wired for symmetry, which is a kind of perfection. We are attracted, at a basic level, to harmony and balance. But as we grow, we find the asymmetrical, the one-offs, the imperfections beautiful too. Hooray for that!

Yes, yes, OK, this is beautiful.


And so is Adrian Brody, with his prominent nose and thin face.


  • Raw diamonds are far more beautiful to me than perfect stones. That's a personal taste, but I find perfectly polished stones less intriguing.

Love this rough, raw diamond and irregular setting. Source.


  • Smooth shiny new boots are beautiful. And so are these, to my eye. They've lived!




  • My boy King was born nine years ago, a feral in a litter of six ferals. We got them all fixed and had their ears clipped, so Animal Services wouldn't pick them up. We didn't know then that he'd become a sweetie-boy house cat. I love his funny ears, he's beautiful.

My handsome little man, King.

I'd add to the list of imperfect beauty: curly, crazy hair; crooked teeth, birthmarks and moles, high foreheads, weathered hands, and majestic noses. There's beauty everywhere. Are you drawn to the imperfections?


Stay fabulous,

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Tuesday, November 11, 2014

What I Wore: Stretching My Summer Dresses

Not literally stretching - thankfully they still fit after a week of NYC restaurants. I mean, I'm continuing to wear my lighter weight, sleeveless dresses into Florida Fall. I prefer darker, unadorned summer dresses but I have been known to rock a floral frock in February.

Today I wore a favorite summer dress - a linen shift from GAP (similar), with a dotty denim shirt as topper (similar). A simple look for the office, with just a vintage belt and bracelet for extras. It's still warm enough to do open shoes, like these Bernardo sandals.

Does your climate/style allow for re-fashioned summer dresses?

Bonus: I can wear this outfit with boots and tights, and a scarf next month.


Here's the dress in NYC in May.

And more cool ideas for expanding your summer wardrobe.


Stay fabulous,

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Sunday, November 9, 2014

Visible Monday #142: All The Favorite Colors

Welcome to Visible Monday #142! If you want to participate, it's so easy: just go to the bottom of this post for the how-to. Please be kind and leave a link to Not Dead Yet Style in your post.

I wore this outfit a couple of weeks ago, when the daytime temperatures were in the 80's. Not a day for serious layering, but I did manage a dress-over skirt. This is one of my favorite Karina dresses, a Gala in a fabulous paisley print. Underneath is an olive silk skirt from Talbot's (similar) and a teal camisole from Adea.

I love the way the colors flow together, including the accents: a bright emerald bangle (similar) and blue suede shoes (similar). For a neutrals kind of woman, this is a bold leap, and it works!

Do you like the artful leaf growing out of my hip?



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