Sunday, August 2, 2015

Love The One You're With (That's You)

The importance of loving our physical selves was in the background, and sometimes the foreground, at the recent Vancouver 40+ Blogger Meetup. All the attendees looked gorgeous to me, because of their effervescent presence as well as their physical beauty. 

I was likely the oldest woman in attendance, but I didn't think about that or "feel" older than the 40-something women. In fact, I felt without-a-specific-age, and comfortable in my skin.

Partial group photo courtesy of the fabulous Sheila.
From left, Pao, Melanie, Sylvia, me, Greetje, Sheila.

We didn't fuss a lot about figure-flattery, although we had a blast while trying on clothes. All the women at the recent meetup know the figure-enhancing techniques, but we don't always make much ado of them. Because we wear what we love, not necessarily what's recommended for an apple or orange or papaya shape.

I have a smallish waist, and often surrender it to looser fitting clothes. I enjoy loose fitting clothes. I have features that I don't mind showing off - like my pale fuzzy hair and nice decollete, but I don't always show my body shape. Here's photo evidence; I'm wearing an over-sized zebra sweater created by Suzanne (similar), and drawstring Eileen Fisher linen trousers (similar):

And my red Kate Spade purse (sim), thrifted for $30 in NYC. (Allow me a small smug here)

Some of my features I'd rather keep to myself, or have magically (not surgically) altered. These include: age spots on my hands (bring back gloves!), droopy upper thighs and a flat-ish butt. I don't race around naked but nearly everyone sees my hands and my clothed ass. And it's all OK, it's part of the package that is me.

I believe we can flaunt our so called "flaws," or cover them and learn to accept them, but there's no joy in hating them. Love that one you're always with. xox


Stay fabulous,

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Friday, July 31, 2015

What I Wore: Shorts! Well, Long Shorts

I'm not a big fan of shorts, even though I live in the subtropics. I don't like the way they cut my thighs and give me flat-butt. But these I like. I don't know if they're even officially shorts, as they come to my knees.

I found this pair of Columbia shorts (similar) at Molly Mutt, where I volunteer, so the price was under $3. The cargo pockets, I'm aware, are a huge no-no for older women but I don't have a care to give. The black knit tank (sim) is layered over a camisole.

My jewelry choices are simple: bead necklace made by the super-talented Suzanne Carillo, and my "G" ring from super-talented Wendy Brandes. Kenneth Cole wedge sandals (sim) and I'm off to run around town, and go to the Post Office at noon, when all the annoying retired people go.



I'm still experimenting with the filters on my camera. This one is a little harsh to my face, but I like the art.

Are shorts a yay or nay for you?

Stay fabulous,

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Wednesday, July 29, 2015

My Four Takeaway Secrets From The Vancouver Blogger Meet-Up



The Vancouver 40+ Blogger Meet-Up (first of a series, I hope) was pure joy. Huge thanks to Melanie, Sue and Suzanne for all their prep work. The city is beautiful and friendly (soooo friendly - there are no crabby Canadians).

Other fabulous bloggers (e.g., Melanie and Sheila) have covered the photography so well, and I am not a great photographer. So no cool collages from me, I am a Left Brain. I do like to ponder a lot, though, so here are my take-aways from the cosmic meet-up:
  • People > fashion. Always and ever so. Some of us dressed more formally at the events, some eclectically and artistically, and some like everyday. No matter what we wore: we got to connect, share personal thoughts, laugh like schoolkids. People trump (ack! sorry for the word!) clothing, every time. P.S. Clothing is a lot of fun too.
  • Take chances. It was great fun at the clothing swap to see the group reaching for outre items and giving them a go. It's a valuable lesson for shopping and vogue-ing: take a chance, try on that sheer floral duster (me) and find another side of your style.
  • Open up and ask a lot of questions. Some of the best times were one-on-ones and two-on-twos, where we could really discover each other's thoughts, hopes, and concerns. I love the sharing.
  • Were all the same, we're all unique. That's one of the first things they taught us in therapy school. We all have loves and fears, we all want to be appreciated as we are. And we all are utterly unique - the fun is uncovering those special quirks.
So I leave the great pics to my talented friends (thanks!), and here are just a couple of mine:

Pao and Anne sharing the fab necklaces made for us by Melanie. The smiles!

Two more uber-stylish friends, Suzanne and Greetje. Is Suzanne standing on tip-toe?

This pic was taken by the fabulous Melanie. I was doing a giddy twirl and wearing a sweater swapped by Suzanne.

My heart is longing for a repeat of this joyful event.

 Stay fabulous,

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Sunday, July 26, 2015

Are You A Minimalist Or A Maximalist?

This is a post from the archives, as I am at the fabulous Vancouver Blogger Meet-up today. Hope you don't mind a re-run from 2011. 
Neither of these is my own closet. I am somewhere in between.

I have read many books, articles and blogs about simplifying one's wardrobe, minimalism, de-cluttering and "pruning" the closet. And I've done quite a bit of this, especially when we've moved house. It always feels good, and I love the feeling of a cleaned-out space with fewer, better options.

So why does it seem so difficult to stick to the pared down wardrobe? I truly enjoy having "just a few well-loved items", and a "closet of gems". Getting dressed is easy, the family budget is relieved. But I am still adding to my wardrobe, albeit at a far slower rate than in my 30's and 40's. Here are some of my theories:
  • "Dithering" purchases: these are the quick stops into Ross, Marshalls and TJ Maxx on my way home from work, or tacked on to another errand. I see an attractive blouse or scarf, it's (always) less than $25 and suddenly it's mine. Did I need it? Certainly not. I wanted it, it looked good, I can afford it, and wardrobe philosophy be cursed.
  • Thrifting. A blessing and a millstone. Like many fashion-lovers I enjoy the hunt, the hope of a score, the "OMG this is a real Marc Jacobs!" moment. And it's a social time too, when I chat with other women and we trade stories, advise each other. But sometimes I come home with STUFF that now needs: cleaning, pressing, arranging and justifying.
  • The mythology of "this one will be perfect." For example, I have four pairs of great jeans. That's enough for my lifestyle, by far. I have dark and medium denim, two straights and two bootcuts. If I wore jeans every day, and at three wears each, that would be twelve days before laundry was due. PLENTY. But I still long for what magazines call the "perfect pair of dark denims". Well, at age 60, I think I would have found them by now.
Of course there are good reasons to add to my wardrobe: those great jeans will wear out and need replacing. All my favorites (shoes, boots, bras) will need to be replaced over time. And I like to add a bunch of fresh tee shirts every spring, new tights, a few new necklaces, a new belt and a nightshirt. The challenge is to be wise in my purchases, and keep the pleasure of the simple closet in the front of my mind.

What about you? I think all approaches are good, if they give you joy. Do you like to have a little or a lot?

Stay fabulous,

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Friday, July 24, 2015

Leaving On A Jet Plane - For A Blogger Meet-up!

I'm on my way today to Vancouver, British Columbia for the first annual 40+ Blogger Meet-Up. It was created by Suzanne, Melanie, and Sue and we're expecting 20 or more fabulous bloggers.

Get me there on time, West Jet - an airline I have never heard of. That's OK, right???

Some of the attendees.

Yes there will be shopping, dining, cocktails, a clothing swap, and lots of squealing. I think Sylvia will win the award for farthest distance traveled (she lives in Singapore) but I will be no slouch at 2,500+ air miles. Note to self: pack lots of books.

Beautiful city and surroundings.

And speaking of packing - what to wear to a party with 20 or more super-fashionable women? Well, there is the clothing swap in case I pull up short. But I'll be sticking to my favorite neutral pieces, accented with scarves, necklaces, a pretty print coat, and crazy hair. It's not a contest, we all just want to look and feel terrific.

Here's my travel wardrobe, packed with a little extra room for crazy impulsive carefully thought-out purchases:
Stay fabulous and see you on the other side of the trip,

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Wednesday, July 22, 2015

What I Wore: How To Tame Your Wild Octopus

I seem to have gone a little octopus-crazy recently. First there was this cool tee, and I just ordered this necklace from Cirque du Frock's Etsy shop. In all my years diving I never saw a wild octopus; they are notoriously private animals. And I wouldn't care to eat one, although there are aficionados of the fare. I just like their soulful eyes and noodly appendages

From Cirque du Frock's shop - she has lots of captivating stuff.

Today's octopus tee (similar) was thrifted in NYC for about $10 - more than I usually pay for a thrift tee, but I fell for the sequined sea creature. I don't think my exposed camisole straps are fetching, but that's the wonder of photography -- you can "see" everything, later.

My silver roots are starting to show, so it's time for a "blending" visit to the stylist. She lightens a few sections of my hair and tones down the yellow-blonde, to help mask the demarcation. It's going to be a long road!

The khakis are from GAP, the shoes are Anne Klein (sim), about three years old, and the two-tone bracelet (sim) is thrifted.

I'm leaving Friday morning for the Vancouver Blogger Meet-Up. I am fired up and a little anxious to be meeting so many new people at one time. I have heard from some of the other attendees that they feel the same - so we should relax in unison. ツ

Stay fabulous,

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Monday, July 20, 2015

Life Lessons From A Gorgeous 80+ Year Old Model

Here's a short, cheery article from Vogue Australia: an interview with model and fashion icon Daphne Selfe. Ms. Selfe has been modeling for 60+ years and is still in demand by top fashion houses. Most of the questions in the article revolve around her fashion favorites, and taking good care of oneself with exercise and nutrition.

Daphne Selfe modeling in the 1950's.

My favorite exchange is about Ms. Selfe's "secret" to success and longevity:

“I think I have been curious, positive, and am lucky to have good genes.  I have always tried new things and never been afraid to experiment.  I have been taught to have a professional attitude and good work ethic. I'm always genuinely interested in every person I work with and I think that helps too.”

The best take-away for me is curiosity. Keep learning new things, never be bored, read books and see films outside your favorites, travel when you can, pick up a new (or old) hobby. These habits make us feel engaged and more alive.

An example close to home: Sandy bought an old French horn on the streets of Soho (yes, he did) and is re-discovering his musical mojo at age 58. He was a good horn player back in the day and played with the Florida Symphony, but hadn't played in 30 years. Not dead yet.

Bought at a flea market on Houston Street, and now a rediscovered passion.

Daphne Selfe: "Don't be afraid to experiment."

Why not a tiara?

Stay curious and fabulous,

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