Most of my readers over a certain age have been given this compliment. How have you felt about it? I am working hard to not be a peckish middle age woman, so I don't like to complain about compliments. But there's something about the "for your age" part that ruffles my silvery fur.
It's like being given a heartfelt compliment and having 10% yanked back. Sometimes, I admit, I have said, "Thank you, I'm 29." (Only with someone I intuit has a good sense of humor!) And I wonder, at what age does one start receiving this slightly wilted compliment? Not at 30, certainly. Maybe 40? After 50, it's almost a sure thing.
And imagine if we qualified compliments with other traits that we don't control: You look good for a woman? You look good for a Canadian? You look good for your height? Outrageous to the ear, of course.
So here is my proposal: let's start omitting the last three words, no matter the age of the recipient. "You look good" is a complete sentence and conveys a sincere admiration of the physical self. Either that, or we start adding "for your age" to everyone we wish to compliment. "Is that your toddler? She is adorable for her age!"
What say you? Do you give or receive this compliment? Any feelings about it? Share, please!
Speaking of Looking Good, it's time for a Bloggers Do It Better challenge at Pretty Shiny Sparkly. This time it's the Arm Party, celebrating bracelets, bangles, watches and all sorts of pretty DIY projects. Check it out.
|Bangle: Molly Mutt Thrift Store, Bracelets: local artist; Target; thrifted|
And, because every day can be a joyous one, we're also celebrating Accessory Swap Day, created by Pam at Over50Feeling40. Pam linked us up with partners to swap accessories with and today we are revealing the goodies. My partner is the lovely Lise from Southern Comfort. Lise sent me this absolutely perfect necklace and earring combo:
|Thank you Lise - you are so nice, and you have great taste too!|